There is something I'd like to share as a final point to this surgery. And that is, that not making my feet the large subject they were in my life ‘is a choice’!
I've had other surgeries before. What I discovered then and still holds true with this surgery, is that you're not coming out from under the knife completely free of what you went in for. What I mean is that surgery is a Trade-Off. While something is remedied or improved, you're trading that off for something else, that hopefully, you don't mind as much as the first thing.
I'm very glad I suspected this going into Brachy surgery. You see, you either trade off Scars, or a different sort of Pain, or a New Habit you have to upkeep (or tolerate), or something. There is always something. I accepted that great possibility while considering this corrective surgery. I knew doctors were/are still trying to find the best way, and that they will never say they are experimenting with solutions. Medicine is nearly always trial and error.
Back to my point. Anyone considering Brachy surgery (or any surgery really) will do themselves a favor if they accept the Trade-Off viability. Accept that there will be trade-offs. And still, you have a choice to make after that. And that is, "What are you going to choose to do when the trade-offs are unmistakably before you?"
There is a danger with having corrective surgery with something that has plagued you for a long time. I've seen it happen to people. They never get out of the complaining and dissatisfied mentality they've lived in for so long. While their situation has improved they still find something to harp on and don't realize that the surgeon removed some things but some things you have to remove yourself. YOU have to change your mind set. And perhaps be determined to be happy at some point with what you've got.
Need to know someone who has it worse than you? Well here is Mariia who had Brachy surgery and it did not turn out as she expected. This is her after countless setbacks, infections and the lot! She has had to find her way to acceptance after all she's been through.
Life is too short. When I found that I was still complaining about this or that long after the surgery I made my mind up to be ecstatic about the improvements and to MOVE ON from this whole foot thing. and I have. You're life should not be about a body part, a bad job, a nagging in-law. Improve where you can and then move on. Life is great if you so choose.
I recently purchased my first home. I'm completely alone, it's difficult, but I choose to be happy as much as I can, where and when I can. I have great sorrows in my life, but I refuse for that to be my identity. I can't be up all the time, but when I'm down, it's not for long. Nothing good comes from complaining and sulking.
The last thing I'll leave you with in an effort to help, is: "Get you off your mind". Look around you. Trust me, there is someone in your circle of influence who somehow has it worse than you. Make it your mission to do something nice for them. When that's done, choose someone else. and keep going.
The human soul was created for giving. Give and it shall be given to you. Help others. Don't wait till it feels right or for it not to be awkward! Giving to people you don't know WILL ALWAYS be awkward. Put your shoulders back and be the weird person in the crowd who will tie an elderly person's shoe lace, help someone put their groceries in their car, give up your seat on the bus for a standing expecting mother, bring flowers to the widower 5 doors down who just lost his wife, buy someone a new winter coat, cook a meal once a week for that elderly person who is on a fixed income.
Seriously, our own misfortunes deserve attention. So attend to them, then move on. Do it with flare :), do it with gratitude. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at Change.
**a BIG "Thank You" to all of you for hanging with me through this journey. I've made mistakes along the way but I've learned a lot too. I really appreciate all the support and love.
I'm not posting much these days as life does go on, but I still get notified in my email inbox when someone comments on the blog. So feel free and I'll do my best. Smooches!**
I sincerely hope your journey is a good one!
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